Is the betrayed spouse's behavior hurting your chances of recovery? Understand the difference between reactions to trauma and intentional harm, and learn how BOTH partners can heal... WHY did this happen? Take the FREE Affair Analyzer: https://www.affairrecovery.com/affair-analyzer-0 - FREE Bootcamp for Surviving Infidelity: https://www.affairrecovery.com/surviving-infidelity/first-steps-bootcamp Chapters 00:00:17 Betrayed Spouse Behaviors: Undermining Relationship Restoration? 00:01:14 Expert Insights: Infidelity, Addiction & Complex Trauma 00:01:43 Unintentional Harm: Understanding Betrayed Spouse Triggers 00:03:39 Empathy for Both Partners in Affair Recovery 00:05:05 Emotional Regulation: Staying Grounded During Infidelity Conflict 00:06:19 Vulnerability Avoidance: Impact on Healing After Betrayal 00:07:15 How the Unfaithful Partner's Self-Work Helps Recovery 00:08:30 Empathy for Unfaithful Spouse: Balancing Needs & Safety 00:11:20 "Moving the Target": Understanding the Betrayed Spouse's Search for Safety HEAL with Affair Recovery: Free 7-Day Bootcamp to start the healing journey: https://www.affairrecovery.com/surviving-infidelity/first-steps-bootcamp Weekend Retreat with our therapist: https://www.affairrecovery.com/product/ems-weekend Online Courses, join our community of support: https://www.affairrecovery.com/programs-and-courses/online-courses This discussion explores common betrayed spouse behaviors after affair discovery that might unintentionally hinder relationship restoration. Learn to differentiate reactions driven by triggers after infidelity and emotional flooding from intentional harm. Discover the importance of empathy for the unfaithful spouse alongside the betrayed partner's need for understanding and creating safety after affair. We cover emotional regulation during conflict, the impact of avoiding vulnerability, and why the betrayed spouse might seem to "move the target." Gain insights into avoiding infidelity recovery communication pitfalls and strategies for rebuilding the relationship after cheating by fostering mutual understanding and safety. EXPERT content that helps with our Recovery Library: https://www.affairrecovery.com/product/recovery-library Samuel is an infidelity survivor and is one of many contributors to Affair Recovery's Survivors’ Blog, https://www.affairrecovery.com/our-blog. He participated in Affair Recovery's courses developed by founder and infidelity expert Rick Reynolds, LCSW. After finding healing, hope, and new life, Samuel wishes to share his journey and what AffairRecovery.com has to offer with others so they too can find hope and healing.